Confidence

We admire those who are self-assured, well informed, and confident without being aggressive. Understanding the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness can pave the way for a calmer self and a healthier, happier life.

People think what they think irrespective of what we want.

There is so much truth in that one sentence, 'people think what they think irrespective of what we want.' So with that in mind, why would we get upset and angry with those who do not align with our own beliefs and values.

Why spend time, energy and effort, trying to get others to understand a particular point of view, when perception can be distorted and not easily changed.

People believe what they believe irrespective of what we want.

We can be assertive in our views, in our beliefs and values, while knowing not everyone will agree with the way we think, feel or act. We don't need approval, or permission to manage ourselves effectively.

An assertion is a form of communication; aggression hurt us all.

Set your standards, own your own choices, be willing to learn, and progress.

Assertiveness is clarity and calmness 

Aggressiveness is confusion

When we think negatively of others, with or without reason, we place negative emotional pressure on ourselves, generating a chemical response due to the accumulation of stress.

Working through our emotions in innovative and creative ways helps us progress effectively.

The main thing is that we take action to be in the best of health by getting the support we need to be emotional, physically, spiritually eased; look after you.

Be supported while being self-supportive.

Professional care can lead the way to a better day.

We are often aware of when we are disconnected, confused, sad, anxious, depressed. It is essential to relieve tension from negative emotional states; talk to a friend, discuss support with your doctor, join a club, start writing to release pain, let it breathe outside of you. 

Creativity

Find ways where you can connect with your creative self, build on your emotional wealth, connect to your presentation of self in innovative ways.   

When we hurt others, we beat ourselves up.

When we generate negative feelings towards others, we feel the emotion ourselves. The chemical response lives throughout our system, so the anger, hurt, blame, we feel towards others generates within us and we can counteract this.

We don't need to be passive when we accept that others may not be able to see the world in the same way that we do.

 

An assertion is about being confident in standing up for ourselves while maintaining our self-respect, and respect for others.

Being angry, forceful or hostile, is a negative mind-body experience.

Due consideration needs to be given to the activation of aggressive thoughts and our emotional response.
 When we are feeling hurt, anger, blame, shame, etc. We are living that feeling and, the body-mind will react accordingly.

Alcoholics Anonymous. "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."



When we aim to bring calmness and forgiveness into our lives, we do it for ourselves for our own emotional/physical/spiritual health.

Assertiveness is a learnable skill.

Open to us is a multitude of ways to counteract negativity from others; assertiveness is an excellent place to start.

Be the best you can be, then be better.