We become vulnerable to stress when we are feeling lonely or when we become isolated from our friends and family. 

We become vulnerable to stress when we are feeling lonely or isolated. It is important to remember that even the thought that we are supported reduces stress, irrespective of whether we use the support or not.

Feeling that we are supported by others helps us to maintain our desire to be self-supportive.

We can build a network of support both personally and professionally to help us maintain a level of unity within ourselves and within our respective communities.

Note down your network of support and identify any areas where you feel improvements could be made;

improvements may include:

• Spending time with the people that you love and enjoy being around
• Building in regular time with friends and family members
• Seeking a professional who can help with the stressors of life
• Speak to your doctor if you feel overwhelmed 
• Keeping in regular contact with people that motivate you to make the changes that you desire
• Connect with people that have similar goals and interests whilst being open to learning new things 
• Making time for creative activities; drawing, writing, dancing, book clubs 
• Aim to have someone in your life that you feel you can talk to about anything
• Building a professional support network of mind, body, spiritual workers
• Help others when they feeling down to get the support they need 

Irrespective of how we feel, when we help others feel good, we feel better about ourselves.

We admire those who are self-assured, well informed, and confident without being aggressive. 

Understanding the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness can pave the way for a better day. We benefit from maintaining a natural, calmer response to the challenges of life that sustain a sense of wellbeing.

People think what they think irrespective of what we want.

There is truth in the sentence above, it may sound a bit harsh, but there is a feeling of acceptance and self-care wrapped in the words. It may be a quote by Bryon Katie.

We can be assertive in our views while knowing not everyone will agree with the way we think, feel or act. We do not need approval or permission to manage ourselves effectively.

The important thing is to remember that we can find it difficult to be objective due to our personal experience of life.

Self-Management 

Being aware of the need to self-manage our emotions is a human trait, and the line between assertion and aggression is thin. We benefit when we become aware of the shift from self-care to self-righteousness. The truth is they both feel good; one is an act of love, the other is not. We often feel the difference before we see it. 

An assertion is a form of communication

Aggression hurt us all

Set personal standards.

Own your own choices.

Take responsibility for your responses.

Be willing to learn and progress.

Assertiveness is clarity and calmness. Aggressivenessis confusion.

When we think negatively of others, we place negative emotional pressure on ourselves, generating a chemical response due to the accumulation of stress. Working through our emotions in innovative and creative ways helps us progress effectively.

Be supported while being self-supportive.

The main thing is that we take action to be in the best of health by getting the support we need to be emotional, physically, spiritually eased. 

Community

Be part of your community; join a club, get involved in arts, do what you can to maintain a balanced life that includes time alone and community integration. 

Byron Katie "The more we question our judgments, the kinder we become. I think love is the power, so that's my interest, and that's my invitation."

Professional care can lead the way to a better day.

We are often aware of when we are disconnected, confused, sad, anxious, depressed. It is essential to release tension from negative emotional states, talk to a friend, discuss support with your doctor, join a club, start writing to release the pressure of life.

Get a massage, do Yoga or some other form of active physical care. 

A little walk each day helps us from going astray. 

Walking strengthens the body and mind, by dissapting negative enery. 

Being angry, forceful or hostile, is a negative mind-body experience, make some space for yourself and others at such times. 

When we generate negative feelings towards others, we feel the emotion ourselves. Emotions are chemicals that respond to the way we think, feel and act.

We have a responsibility to counteract destructive modes of thinking, so the anger, hurt, blame, or shame we feel towards others does not overtly regenerate within us. We are not passive when we accept that others may not see the world in the same way that we do.

Acceptance of different views, values, and ways of living is not a diminishment of who we are; we have our inner voice to guide us; that does not mean that others should follow our path; we are individuals that aim to live together in harmony.

An assertion is about being confident when you feel you have something to convey, something of value to say. Maintaining your self-respect is gained by owning your right to be wrong. We become open in our speech when we are assured that we will be treated as human. 

When we feel hurt, anger, blame, shame, etc., the Bodymind reacts accordingly.

Alcoholics Anonymous. 'Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.'

When we aim to bring calmness and forgiveness into our lives, we do it for ourselves, for our emotional-physical-spiritual sense of wellbeing.

Freedom of choice is never one voice

It is ok to say how you feel

Talk things through with a friend or a professional

We learn a lot from listening to ourselves

We can make informed decisions by listening to others

Say 'I own my right to be wrong' and mean it

Speak your truth; assertively. 

 

 

Natural health-enhancing chemicals are released into our bloodstream in alignment with pleasant emotions and uplighting moods.

Feelings such as

• hopefulness 
• love
• laughter
• optimism
• empathy
• acceptance
• joy
• humour
• inspiration
• confidence all generate a positive hormonal response. 

 

Generating pleasant feelings helps us gain a sense of control.

Attaining a level of control increases levels of wellness by enabling feelings of self-assurance and support.It is important to feel part of any recovery and wellness program; this can be achieved by amalgamating internal and external care. 

Many factors can affect how hopeful we feel. Hopefulness is one of the positive emotions that can have a beneficial effect on our emotional state.It is well-documented that a sense of hope reduces stress, anxiety, and depression.

When we can see that we can have a better day, every day, hope generates.

Being optimistic about any chosen treatment or recovery program generates feelings of hopefulness.

It is not that we have to resist negative thinking. It is that we need to remember to counteract it.

PNI research concludes that our state of mind impacts the immune system. 

Being pessimistic can lead to depression which negatively interferes with the immune system.
It can take time, energy and effort to focus on generating feelings of hopefulness, and please get support if this is difficult for you or those you love. 

In any one year, around one million Australian adults have depression. www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts.

Research has shown that the physiology of hopefulness helps the body to fight disease.

Candace Pert PhD 'Changing the way we think improves the way we feel and act, but we also change biologically, making it possible to restore a healthy balance within the body. 
Every cell within our body responds very precisely to the way we think.'

Every cell within our body responds very precisely to the way we think.


Research has shown that the physiology of hopefulness helps the body to fight disease.

 

Activating a positive mindset generates the appropriate hormonal response.

Testosterone, estrogen, progesterone all play a part in our mood, but we are an integral part of the process of healthy living. 

We can affect the brain chemicals responsible for confidence and optimism.

Hormones are essential to all the systems of the body

Hormones are molecules 

The endocrine system produces hormones 

The endocrine system sends messages to various parts of the body

These messages help regulate bodily functions, like hunger, blood pressure, sexual desire, and reproduction. 

Optimism and confidence activate the release of feel-good hormones such as endorphins which counteract the hormonal response which is generated by sadness and hopelessness. 

When we are optimistic, it lifts our mood and reduces the physical feelings often associated with depression, such as lethargy and tiredness. 

EMOTIONAL TRANSIENCE 

psychologytoday.com 'Hope structures your life in anticipation of the future and influences how you feel in the present. Similar to optimism, hope creates a positive mood about an expectation, a goal or a future situation. Such mental time travel influences your state of mind and alters your behaviour in the present. The positive feelings you experience as you look ahead, imagining hopefully what might happen, what you will attain, or who you are going to be, can alter how you currently view yourself. Along with hope comes your prediction that you will be happy, and this can have behavioural consequences.'

When we counteract negative thoughts, we relieve stress.

Counteracting is not about being relentlessly upbeat. It is about being open to participating in a range of ways to release stress. 

Candace Pert PhD "Anger and blaming others takes a lot of energy away from healing. One of the most powerful emotions that need to be expressed is forgiveness."
Forgiveness is not condoning the behaviour of others. We can choose work towards forgiveness in a way that is self-naturing; in a way that does not re-generate feelings of hurt, anger, blame, and shame. 

EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION 

Emotional expression is an effective way to relieve stress.

Learning how to be emotionally articulate reduces frustration.

We become less anxious when we express how we feel; this can be achieved in a myriad of creative ways; writing poetry, songs, drawing, painting, dancing, singing.

Emotions need expression and physical support. 

When emotions are expressed, it is essential to identify where the body's feelings are arising and determine which physical intervention would be appropriate. 

Self-care is a personal form of health care. 

Be supported and self-supportive. 

Unity in wellness: connect your mind and body to self-generate a happier, emotional-physical state of well-being. 

 

Build emotional wealth by reducing mind, body, and spiritual stress In a way that counteracts hopelessness. 

When we become overwhelmed by the events of our lives, our thinking becomes clouded, and our thoughts may become irrational.

 

Taking time to build our lives in a calmer, confident, proactive way is a form of self-efficacy when we believe in ourselves irrespective of circumstance. 

Focusing and incorporating stress management techniques into our everyday lives will benefit our sense of wellbeing. As Lou Tice uses to say,  'we move towards what we think about.' A world of personal development and self-care has formed their premise around this theory.

When we view wellness-promoting websites, it is helpful to focus on a desired primary outcome and then consolidate what has been learnt by sharing what has proved beneficial. 

We share a life, even though we are not together.

When we care for ourselves effectively, we become role models for others. 

We do not have the same challenges simultaneously, and even if we did, we do not view challenges in the same way because of our emotional infrastructure. That said, sometimes we need a different way forward, and the experience of others can help us immensely. 

We can choose to help each other in counteracting the cause of negative stress; this can be achieved while independently managing ourselves.

Self-responsibility is a liberating way to move forward 

Be aware of what wellness program suits the way you live and love life 

Feel free to read through each section of the free 'PNI Course' and 'Wellness' and cherry-pick information that not only enables you to attain your PNI Awareness Certification but helps you and others to move towards a happier, healthier life. 

Take small steps towards wellness every day 

Make time to laugh and play

Set boundaries

Gain professional care

Be honest 

Do not expect an easy ride 

Expect to take things in your stride 

Choose words with care in the pursuit of wellness.

Self-management is a skill that takes on a level of momentum once it is established. Smaller changes can lead to significant life-changing results. Just as stress accumulates, so do calming life-enhancing thoughts. 

The placebo effect comes in many forms and is activated by what we believe to be true. 

Self-Creation 

Create a clear intention for wellness by visualising an outcome that you desire, do this in a way that creates a naturing emotion. It is helpful and aligned with PNI to be aware of resistance in bodily aches and pains and unwanted thoughts that no longer keep the peace.

We can ask ourselves, 'what can we do today that will build a better pathway tomorrow?' Then we can take action required to bring what is desired into life.
Emotional progression and self-expression are activities that can be formed with a clear intention and an active progression plan. 

Dr Joe Dispenza (You are the Placebo) 'When the placebo effect is at work, and you create the right level of mind with a clear intention and combine it with a nurturing, elevated emotion, the right type of signal can reach the cell's DNA.'